**The Community Center at Sweetwater Summit Regional Park is a beautiful spot to host a wedding or special event.**

More than 10 years ago, Johnna, the bride at this wedding, attended another wedding I DJ’d. It was her brother’s wedding. And it was the beginning of many special days and events I would share with this great family.

Johnna and Dustin partied it up with friends and family at Sweetwater Regional Summit Park. The venue is located in Bonita, among an RV campground. While this might seem a bit rustic, it’s actually a beautiful wedding location, and the community center where the reception took place is a perfect spot for a great party.

Here’s a look at the setlist:

Cocktail Hour/Dinner

Breau and Atkins - Polka Dots and Moonbeams
Louis Armstrong, Kenny G - What A Wonderful World
Will Young - Your Love Is King
Adele - Send My Love (To Your New Lover)
Ella Henderson - Ghost
Michael Jackson & Justin Timberlake - Love Never Felt So Good
Maroon 5 - Maps
Ed Sheeran - Sing
OneRepublic - Love Runs Out
Duke Dumont f./Jax Jones - I Got U
Ellie Goulding - Love Me Like You Do
Michael Jackson - Don't Stop Til' You Get Enough
Pentatonix - Can't Sleep Love
Michael Buble - Haven't Met You Yet
Maroon 5 - Sugar
Eagles - Take It Easy
Rudimental f./Ed Sheeran - Lay It All On Me
Jess Glynne - Hold My Hand
Pink f. Lily Rose Cooper - True Love
Of Monsters And Men - Mountain Sound
Mark Morrison - Return of the Mack
S.W.V. - Right Here (Human Nature Duet) [Select Mix Remix]
Gwen Stefani - Make Me Like You
Coldplay - Adventure Of A Lifetime
Capital Cities - Safe And Sound
Andy Grammer - Fresh Eyes (DJ Mike D Remix)
Empire Of The Sun - Walking On A Dream
Ed Sheeran - Photograph (Felix Jaehn Remix Edit)

First Dance
Chris Stapleton - Tennessee Whiskey

Open Dancing First Set

Frank Sinatra - The Way You Look Tonight
Al Green - Let's Stay Together
Jackson 5 - I Want You Back
Bruno Mars - 24K Magic
K.C. & the Sunshine Band - Get Down Tonight
David Bowie - Let's Dance
Michael Jackson - Billie Jean
Marky Mark & The Funky Bunch - Good Vibrations (Select Mix Remix)
Flo Rida - Low

Cake Cutting
Frank Sinatra - Love And Marriage

Open Dancing Second Set

Sister Sledge - We Are Family
Earth, Wind & Fire - September
Salt N Pepa - Push It (Mayeda Remix)
Bingo Players - Cry (Just A Little) (A-Trak & DiscoTech Remix)
Flo Rida - I Cry
Usher - Yeah
Christina Aguilera - Lady Marmalade
Emeralds - Chicken Dance
B-52's - Love Shack
Sia f./Sean Paul - Cheap Thrills
Justin Timberlake - Can't Stop The Feeling!
Mark Ronson, Bruno Mars - Uptown Funk (Select Mix Remix)
Vanilla Ice - Ice Ice Baby (Select Mix Remix)
Pitbull, Chris Brown - Fun (Select Mix Remix)
Kungs & Cookin' On 3 Burners - This Girl
Meghan Trainor f./John Legend - Like I'm Gonna Lose You
Flo Rida - My House
Maroon 5 ft Kendrick Lamar - Don't Wanna Know (Mr. Collipark Remix)
DJ Snake f./Justin Bieber - Let Me Love You
Missy Elliott - Work It (Mayeda Remix)
Mike Posner - I Took A Pill In Ibiza (SeeB Remix)
Major Lazer & DJ Snake f./MO - Lean On
Tupac - California Love (Original Version)
Fetty Wap f./Remy Boyz - 679
Fat Joe f./Remy Ma & Jay-Z - All The Way Up (Promo Only Quick Edit - Remix)
Next - Too Close
Cupid - Cupid Shuffle
Lady GaGa - Just Dance
Gwen Stefani - The Sweet Escape
Kesha - Tik Tok
Katy Perry - Teenage Dream
Andy Grammer - Honey, I'm Good (Select Mix Remix)
Drake - Hotline Bling
The Weeknd f./Daft Punk - Starboy
Mann ft 50 Cent - Buzzin (Remix)
Nelly - Ride Wit Me

Last Dance
Journey - Don't Stop Believin'

Vendor Team
DJ/Master of Ceremonies: DJ Kanoya Productions
Venue: Sweetwater Regional Summit Park
Caterer: Brothers Signature Catering and Events

**The wedding couple will be intently listening, so be prepared to give the perfect wedding toast.**

As a wedding DJ in San Diego I have served as the master of ceremonies at more than 300 weddings since 2002. Generally speaking, every wedding has at least two toasts, one from the best man and one from the maid of honor. Add in a parent speech or two, and it’s not too far off of an estimate that I have sat through nearly 1,000 speeches.

If I had to assess a movie title to the type of wedding toasts and speeches I’ve heard, it would most certainly be, “The Good, the Bad and the Ugly.”

If you’ve been asked to speak at a wedding -- such as being the best man or maid/matron of honor -- the purpose of this article is to provide a few tips to make that process a little easier. Because after sitting through 1,000 wedding toasts, I’m hoping I can help your speech end up in the “good” category and stay clear of the “bad” and most certainly “ugly.”

1. Familiarize yourself with where you will be speaking, as in the actual location where you will be standing
If you’ve never spoken to a group of 100-plus people -- and that’s the majority of people I’ve come across -- it’s always good to get a sense of what your vantage point is going to be before the room is dead quiet and 100 pairs of eyes are staring at you.

**Find out ahead of time where you will be standing for the toast, so you're not caught off guard when it's "go time."**

As the primary MC, I am addressing the audience in various locations throughout the night. But as a general rule, for the actual “champagne toast,” “best man toast,” “maid of honor toast,” etc., I make sure to place the speaker near the couple.

This placement will depend on the type of seating arrangement too.

Couple sitting at “sweetheart table”: This type of seating, where only the newly wedded couple are seated, tends to be the focal point of the room. Standing near the table, on the side of the person you are toasting (i.e. best man toasting the groom) is recommended.
Couple sitting in the middle of a large “head table”: This set-up can be difficult if the table is real long (wide). Most of the time, the toaster is usually right next to the couple, so it’s easy to stand up from the table and speak. If the toaster is not sitting with or near them, then I recommend taking a similar position next to them.

Avoid standing on the opposite side of the table, because this will likely result in having your back to the guests or the couple.
Couple sitting among all guests: This seating arrangement is becoming more common because it allows the couple to sit with everyone and not be showcased at a single table. The table they are sitting at will likely be near the dance floor. This makes the dance floor a natural place to stand since you can face both the couple and the guests.

Understandably it can also be one of the most nerve wracking positions because you’ll have that “I’m on stage and everyone is staring at me feeling.”

Yes, you will have nerves, but keep reading for some tips to help alleviate some of them.

2. Understand proper microphone technique:
Grab a microphone, speak. Seems pretty easy right? Technically, yes, it’s easy. But there are a few things to keep in mind.

Project your voice. Just because you are speaking into a microphone does not mean you should speak softer. In fact, you should speak a little louder since a large group of people are listening to what you are saying. Think of it as an amplified conversation. My suggestion is to assume you don’t have a mic, speak at that volume (without yelling) and project your voice.

**Perfect microphone technique shown here. Hold it right in the middle and place it close to the mouth.**

Kiss the mic. When speaking, place the microphone almost to the point that you are about to kiss it. Do not hold it down by your waist or at your chest. Lift and place it near your mouth.

Yes, it’s on. Any seasoned professional MC, DJ, sound guy should be handing you a “hot mic.” You should not have to worry about turning it on or off, or asking “is this thing on,” and please do not slap the top of the mic. I will never understand why people do this.

I always mute the microphone before I had hand it to the person about to speak (unless they are immediately going to speak). I control “on/off” from my mixing board so it’s on when it needs to be, and most importantly, off when it needs to be.

3. Spend time before the wedding preparing your speech:
Remarkably, I’ve handed a microphone off to people that have literally asked, “what am I supposed to say.” You’ve just been given the honor to say a few words and toast a newly wedded couple … and unless they have just asked you prior to having a microphone handed to you, you owe them a little investment in your time in preparing a speech.

Preparation will be different for everyone. It could be some scribbled notes, or full on speech writer, rehearsing in front of a mock audience. Either way, you know what you will need to do, just be sure to do it.

Speaking of the speech ...

4. Keep it brief and have a beginning, middle and end:
You know what happens when you do not prepare and just “wing it?” You end up with a speech that just rambles, lacks cohesion and ensures that the people listening will stop listening.

The foundation of a good speech is always having a beginning, middle and end. An ideal template would go like this:

BEGINNING

Introduce who you are and your relation to the couple
Acknowledge those in attendance, particularly family members of the couple

MIDDLE

Go into an anecdote about the person in the couple you are closest too. This would likely be the person who asked you to speak, i.e. bride if you are the maid of honor.
Start wrapping up this section by sharing something about the couple. This provides a segue to your conclusion.

END

Acknowledge how happy you are for them, this day and being given the honor of delivering this speech.

Which brings me to my last tip. You’re almost done you just need to ….

5. Always end by congratulating the couple and asking everyone to raise their glass:
I can’t believe how many people finish their speech, exchange hugs with the couple and just sit down? I know, there is a relief to finally be “done,” but don’t forget the most important part of the toast … THE ACTUAL TOAST.

Don’t forget to say those words … “If you would all please raise your glasses …”